Redefining Success: Why Your Version Matters More Than Anyone Else’s

There’s no shortage of advice about what it means to be successful—whether in work, business, or life in general.

But what does success actually mean for you?

It’s tempting to believe there’s a single definition we should all aim for. There isn’t, but that doesn’t stop us from thinking there is.

From childhood, we’re bombarded with ideas about what success “should” look like. We’re told what to do, who to be friends with, how to look, what to say, and how to act. The unspoken expectation? That we’ll accept those rules—whether they fit us or not—and simply get on with it.

The problem? That kind of success might not lead to a life you actually enjoy.

My Old Definition of Success

I used to think success was all about climbing the corporate ladder as quickly as possible. My self-worth was tied to a job title. Until I had that title, I felt I had to keep proving myself, working harder, and pushing on.

As for celebrating wins along the way? Don’t be ridiculous! That would be showing off. And admitting I was stressed, burnt out, or exhausted? Definitely not. It was all “part of the job” and, apparently, part of being successful.

It wasn’t that my life was awful; there were great moments. I met incredible people, worked on meaningful projects, and attended some amazing events. But I never felt truly fulfilled. Something was missing.

Looking back, I can see why. I was chasing someone else’s definition of success. I’d never stopped to ask myself what success meant to me. I just compared myself to others and thought, I’m not them or I’m not there yet. And that constant striving took a toll.

Is Your Definition of Success Really Yours?

Here’s a question worth exploring:

Is the definition of success you’re living by actually right for YOU?

Before answering, take a moment to write down your current definition. Don’t overthink it—just get it onto paper.

Be honest because the way you define success shapes the choices you make, the goals and priorities you set, and ultimately, the life you experience.

If you discover your current definition doesn’t reflect your values, priorities, or vision for your life, it’s time to redefine it. And the best part? You get to write your own version from scratch.

Success is deeply personal

Success isn’t one-size-fits-all. It’s deeply personal. Defining it on your own terms is one of the most powerful steps you can take toward living a life that you’re really excited about.

What’s your definition?