You Know What You Need To Do But You Just Don't Do It, Why?
- Tracey Hancock
You know what you need to do but you’re just not doing it, or maybe you are but not consistently so you don't get the results you want. Sound familiar?
I’m going to assume, and I think it’s fairly safe to do this, that on any given day you do a lot. You’re contributing and doing things at home or work, or perhaps for an organisation like a sports club, church, hobby group or whatever it is you’re involved with.
You’re also probably quite good at keeping appointments with other people and you follow through on what you commit to do for others.
How am I doing so far?
Pretty good. Sounds about right. Nailed it, even.
So given that you’re smart, motivated and you can be disciplined – what’s holding you back from doing what you know you need to do?
How much do you value yourself?
Imagine a scale from 1 to 10, where 10 is you absolutely, completely value yourself for the person you are, to 1 being you don't believe you're worth anything at all. What score would you give in response to the question "how much do you value yourself?"
More often than not when people know what they need to do but they don't do it, it's because they're not fully valuing themselves. They do a lot for others and try not to let people down, but what they end up doing is letting themselves down. Constantly saying "yes" to someone or something else, is a "no" to them and what they need.
Are you a priority for you?
When we truly commit to ourselves and believe we are important (just as important as others) our choices change. That walk you committed to doing today becomes a non-negotiable because you know it's important to your health to exercise. You won't give it up to do something for someone else, like stay at work late or help someone out, unless there's an exceptional reason. It's not about saying "no" to every request that comes along, it's about filtering what you say "yes" to so you look after yourself.
When you think of your family, friends, your boss, colleagues and everyone else you interact with, are you giving more attention, energy and focus to them than your own needs?
Do you believe you deserve your own self-love?
Often times we do things for others because we think it means we'll be liked or loved, fit in and/or be accepted. Until we learn to fully love ourselves for who we are and where we are right now, we will forever do what others ask of us or what we think we should do.
Can you comfortably stand in front of the mirror, look yourself in the eyes and say "I love you"? Many people struggle with this, but the more comfortable you become doing it, the more your choices will support you. You will not need to do things for others to be accepted, you'll do things for others because you choose to. And when you make that choice, you make it knowing that what you need to do for yourself hasn't been compromised.
So where to from here?
You already know what you need to do. Now value yourself, make YOU a priority and love yourself enough to commit to doing what you need to do for you. As always start small, unless an epic-sized change is right for you. Make a decision and take action each day that reflects your commitment to yourself.
You deserve to live your life fully now and to experience success in business.
Go well! - Tracey
Tracey Hancock, coach and mentor, specialises in helping people put themselves and their health at the heart of everything they do in life and business. Because you don't need to sacrifice your health to achieve the life and business success you dream of. Plan for your success now. Contact me to find out how to get started.