Who’s in the driver’s seat of your life?

Does life seem to be getting busier each year and before you know it another year is over?  Is it filled with constant demands and deadlines?  Are you reacting to what’s going on around you rather than feeling in control?

If you’re ready to make 2015 different but not sure how, then read on!

To help you live your life, your way there are a few simple things you can do.  Now you’ll notice I said “simple” not “easy”.  There’s no secret potion or magic wand.  But, if you’re ready to commit to yourself and get really clear about what living your life your way means to you, 2015 (and beyond!) can be different.
Now I could start by telling you how to create a plan for 2015 that has your goals and some steps to achieve them in it and then set you on your way.  But I won’t.  There’s something else, something even more important, that we need to do first.  You need to understand who’s in the driver’s seat of your life. 
It may be that over time you’ve had different roles, worn different hats so to speak, and you’ve become disconnected from yourself.  You’re perhaps all or some of these – a daughter, wife / partner, mother / step-mother, employee, manager, business owner, committee member and on the list goes.  You’ve both stepped into and stepped up to those roles, and given them 100%.  But what about you? 
Pause and breathe for a moment.  Slow, deep breaths.  Imagine yourself cocooned in a safe place now.  It’s a place where you can be completely honest with yourself.  In that place you can say what’s on your mind and know there’s no judgement or fear.  Allow yourself to feel free of any burdens or worries that are weighing you down.  Put aside any fears you have and allow yourself to breathe.  Slow, deep breaths. 
Please ask yourself these three questions:

  1. Who have I allowed to be in the driver’s seat of my life?  There may be more than one person.  Remember there’s no judgement and there’s no right or wrong. 
  2. What will happen if I allow them to remain in that seat?  
  3. What won’t happen if I allow them to remain in that seat?

While it’s easy to say the words in those three questions, it can be challenging to answer them honestly.  Because you’re reading this I know you have the courage to do it. 
If you skimmed over the three questions, please go back to them again.  Allow yourself the time and space to do this.
If you were to dive into 2015, armed with goals and an action plan, I respectively suggest you might not be as successful as you’d like.  The key to really stepping into living your life, your way, is to make the right choices for you.  Goals, choices and decisions driven by what we think other people want or expect of us, or what others tell us to do, will not make us happy.  While we might take into account the needs and wants of others, ultimately we have a choice. 
As Shakespeare said “to be, or not to be, that is the question.”  So, will you be in the driver’s seat of your life or not?