Lesson 1: Understanding values
Welcome to Lesson 1 where you'll learn what values are and understand how they impact you.
It's common to think that it's just businesses that have values, but we actually have them ourselves, whether we realise it or not.
Knowing your values is going to make such a difference in your life so let’s get started!
What are values
Simply put, values are the things that are important to you. They are your preferences and priorities. Values are what motivate you – you won’t be motivated by something you don’t value.
Now as values are abstract and intangible you won’t see them as such, but you will feel them.
When you’re in alignment with your values you’ll experience feelings of joy and bliss. And when you’re out of alignment, or not strongly aligned, you’ll feel and experience tension, conflict, stress and dis-ease.
Hierarchy of values
While all of your values will be important to you, some will be more or less important than others. By seeing your values in a hierarchy you’ll understand even more about yourself and be able to use your values to guide your decisions and choices.
Your values may differ in different settings. Now for some that seems strange, after all you’re the same person. Think about what you value personally, what your values are for your relationships, family, friends, work, the groups you belong to, the home you live in and the vehicle you drive etc. While there might be some values common across all of those areas of your life, there is likely to be some difference (we’ll explore that more in the next lesson).
Your values can change over time. The change is reflective of what’s important to you at that stage of your life. Because of this, it’s good to revisit them at least annually, maybe even every 6-months.
Values influence relationships
When you feel in tune with someone or when you’re relating well together, it’s often because your values are aligned. Can you think of an example where this has occurred? Who do you relate well with?
Values can also lead to conflict. Think about a time when there’s been conflict between you and someone else. Imagine for a moment that you value flexibility and the person you’re meeting values strong structure and strict timetables. If you’re even 1 minute late for an appointment the person who values strict timetables will be fuming and most likely be thinking you don’t value them.
At all times, your actions and responses are being driven by your own values.
Remember, values are the *things* that are important to you, they’re your preferences and priorities. And now it’s time for you to identify and define your own values, which is the work you’ll do in Lesson 2.
To go to the Values overview page, click here.