We all have a dream for how we want to live and work. More often than not though something holds us back from letting the dream see the light of day. We do what we think we should, what we think is expected of us, but something's missing, isn't it?
Imagine a world where NO ONE followed their dreams
I woke up the other day with this thought running through my head... how would our world be different if NO ONE ever followed their heart and said "yes" to their dream?
Look around you. Everything that's been created came about because someone had a dream and they were moved to try something. And they had fears too. Am I good enough to do it? What if it doesn't work? What will others think or say?
Wow! how fortunate are we that they said "yes" despite their fears, the possibility of failure and what other people might think and say.
How about you...
- Have you got a dream that lights you up but you're afraid to take the first step?
- Are there things in your life that you want to change, do differently, or new things you want to try but you're putting them off?
- Each time you feel brave enough to step out and try something, is there a voice inside your head that reminds you that it's scary to do something new, don't do it?
You're not alone.
We all have fears, even the strongest, most successful people have fears. It's what we do in response to them that matters most.
Three common fears...
Our fears often come down to three things:
1. Am I good enough
2. Do I belong
3. Am I loved
You're human so you'll have experienced these fears at some time. One or more of them will be holding you back or keeping you playing small in some way.
Ready to put those fears in the box where they belong so you can focus on your dreams?
Am I good enough
We are each our own unique person. There is no one like you in the world. You are YOU. There will always be people with different views, thoughts and opinions. They're neither right nor wrong, they're just different.
Gosh that's a relief, isn't it?
And you know what? Those people who you admire (or envy) because they seem so successful - they tried, failed and got knocked down, but kept going because they believed they could do it. It's often less about luck and more about persistence and belief.
Do I belong
You were born into this world therefore you belong. You have a place in this world that is yours.
Going through life justifying why you're here or searching for evidence that supports your existence is a heavy burden to carry and tiring. Put down your load. Breathe. You belong.
Am I loved
This one is well within your control. Love yourself. We often seek love from others and when we don't get it or it's not in a way we think love should be given, we're disappointed. Love yourself and love will flow to you.
Imagine for a moment walking around thinking you're unlovable and that no one could possibly love you. What's going to happen? You block love. You're saying no to it. You won't see or feel it. Love yourself and see what happens next.
Believe you can handle anything...
When you believe you're good enough, that you do belong and you are love yourself, everything changes.
You move from a place of fear to one of, I've got this - it might be messy and there's going to be some tough times, and I might need to ask for help or learn something new - but I've got this. That's faith. Looking at life from a place of faith, rather than fear, will change what you think, say and do. Go on, try it.
If you knew you were good enough, that you belonged and you loved yourself, and that ultimately you can handle anything, imagine what you could do?
It starts today, now - what will you do first?
Tracey Hancock is a coach and mentor passionately committed to helping people achieve their dreams and goals. Drawing on her own experience and the lessons she's learnt trying to be and do what she thought was expected of her, Tracey will guide you to live and work your way.
Ready for change and to feel more fulfilled? Contact Tracey to learn more about the REALiving approach today.