It might not always seem like it, but you have a choice about who you show up as and how you live and work.
I get that in the hustle and bustle of life it's easy to lose connection with your real self and what you value. You're busy and you're doing stuff at home, for your family, at work and in your community, but something doesn't feel right, does it?. In fact, if you were really honest, there are areas in your life where things feel hard. Where no matter how hard you push or fight, you just don't seem to make progress.
When you're out of alignment with your real self and what you value that's when tension is created. It's the conflict between what you intuitively know is right for you and what you think you should be and do.
Now, our natural reaction when we feel out of sorts - when we feel stuck or unsure - is to keep pushing ahead. Telling ourselves if we just work harder, if we just hold on until that new job comes along, we've got a partner, we've got that job... And when it doesn't happen, we push and fight harder.
In what areas of your life or business do things feel hard?
You'll know it. It's where you feel stuck, overwhelmed or confused. Got it? Write it down. What's going on? What are you thinking? And what are you feeling?
Pushing and fighting your way through the hardness is likely to keep you stuck (in fact it's likely to make you feel even more stuck!). Think about quicksand. When you're in it the more you wriggle, the more you struggle, the more you push, the more stuck you get.
For years I pushed myself hard to fit in, to be like others, to be normal, to be liked and loved, to be part of the crowd, and to do what I thought was the right thing. Because that's what you do, right? You sacrifice who you are and what you want to be 'accepted' by your partner, your parents, your children, your friends, your boss, your customers and clients and even people you don't know!
Hmm, I don't reckon so. All that sacrificing and holding yourself back leaves you feeling inadequate, incomplete and unworthy. You end up trying to live and work how you think you should rather than in the way that's right for you. And guess what? It feels hard and you struggle. But just like the quicksand, no matter how much you try you can't make progress forward.
Remember, things feel hard when they're not in alignment with what you value - when they're not right for you.
So where do things feel hard for you? Be honest, we all have 'those' places.
Take a moment and instead of pushing and fighting, look for the easiest and simplest next step. What is it, what's that next step? Remember, it doesn't need to be epic-sized (unless of course, that's right for you), a small step is perfect to get you moving forward.
Hey there, I'm Tracey, a once-upon-a-time chronic people pleaser who has kicked that habit to the curb! And thank goodness for that because the constant, at times overwhelming, pressure and stress was definitely not working well for me! These days I'm all about living and working my way, choosing who I show up as and what I say and do. It's been a game-changer and I don't want to keep what I've learnt to myself, so are you ready to live well? Because, if you are, I'm here to let you know it's possible to live and work in alignment with your heart and soul.
Using a good dose of soulfulness, the power of your mind and a practical-action taking focus, we'll shine a light on you, your goodness and on how you can live well too. Head here to find out more about how we can work together and if you have a question or want to find out more about 1:1 coaching let me know here.